Are you a good friend?

Imagine your best friend came to you before hockey trials and said,

I suck! Everyone else is better than me and I’m never going to make the team.


Would you say the following to her:

"Yes, you do suck and you should probably not get your hopes up about making the team."

Probably not, right!?

Are you a good friend – to yourself?

Think about something that you have been struggling with lately.

How do you speak to yourself?

Is it along the lines of:

Yes you do suck and you should probably not get your hopes up about making the team.

If it’s not okay to speak to someone else like this – why would you speak to yourself like this?